WHAT ARE SEX TOY PARTIES? AND HOW TO HOST A GOOD ONE
DONNA TURNER·JUNE 27, 2019
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What Are Sex Toy Parties?
No, it’s not the female equivalent of a circle-jerk.
Otherwise known as pillow talk or pleasure parties, and maybe even the secret thing they used to call “tupperware parties,” sex toy parties are fun and informative gatherings to learn about the latest and greatest masturbation and sex tools.
Sex toy parties are often for monogamous women who use toys to enhance their experiences with their partners, and in general, could learn a few new tips and tricks about self-pleasure.
There are a few general categories we can organize our treasure trunk of pleasure into.
For Women: Vibrators, dildos, oral sex stimulators, pleasure trainers. For Men: Prostate massagers, gentlemen’s plugs, cock rings.
BDSM: Bondage, blindfolds, handcuffs, whips & floggers, nipple clamps, teasers. Accessories: Cleaners, lube, oils/candles, lingerie.
And so much more. If you’re interested in sex toys but haven’t talked to your partner about it yet, check out some tips on how to introduce them into your relationship.
How To Become a Sex Toy Party Host.
Not only are hosting sex parties fun, consulting can actually be a great side gig. There are quite a few companies out there that provide you with all the training and materials to get you going (My Secret Soiree, Pure Romance, Fantasia). It also helps if you have a natural curiosity and interest in sexual health as a prerequisite.
So, if the following sounds like you, you might want to give it a shot:
You enjoy throwing parties You’re a fan of sex toys yourself You’re interested in helping people understand their bodies You have friends that are similar in these aspects
Sex Toy Party Ice Breakers
It’s all about getting comfortable. Even though sex toys are just about as common as coffee makers in our homes, it can still be a little awkward when revealing our sexual wants and desires in front of strangers. A good tactic to breaking down this awkwardness is through humor.
Here are some fun ice breaker ideas:
Name Game: Adjective with first name, for the night. Never Have I Ever: Put a finger down for things you've done. I Packed My Bag: Memorization game with party items. Make a long list of sex related objects.
Co-Ed Sex Parties
An international sex study from LELO found that the sex toy buying ratio between men and women is 50/50, which means that men are buying for their partners too – so why not invite them? This could be a fun opportunity to enlighten our guys and show them what we’re interested in.
Plus, they no longer have to stress about that anniversary gift they’re getting you. Do note that there are a few companies that don’t allow men at these gatherings, however this trend seems to be changing.
Ready, set, party plan!
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DONNA TURNER
Donna is a Volonté contributor and freelancer who lives in San Francisco with her understanding husband and not-so-understanding teenage sons. Her work has been published in The Journal of Sexology and she is currently writing a book on love languages.
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Stacey Austin-Pauley
October 27, 2021 at 12:41 am
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