HOW LONG CAN THE AVERAGE MAN CAN STAY ERECT
KAROLINA WILDE
AUGUST 13, 2025
11 MINS READ
There are two questions that often plague many men’s minds: “How long does an erection last?” and “How long should I last in bed?”
If you find yourself often pondering over these questions and trying to compare the length of your erection to other people, know that you’re definitely not alone.
Erections, just like many other sexual health-related topics, are still greatly misunderstood. One popular myth many still believe is that the longer you can last in bed, the better. It might come as a surprise, but how long an erection lasts depends on many different individual factors, just as the size of the penis.
So, if you want to find a way out from the never-ending comparison game, let’s break the science of erection down and separate facts from fiction.
What Is an Erection?
An erection is a physiological reaction when the penis gets hard and enlarged due to an increase in blood flow. When the penis fills up with blood, it increases in size and stands up away from the body.
The most common cause of an erection is sexual stimuli and excitement. However, an erection might happen without sexual arousal at random. Ejaculation helps the erection to go away in most cases, but it may also go away without doing anything specific.
Different Types of Erections
Penises are often viewed as a simple and straightforward organ – when you get aroused, you get hard. That’s about all there is to it. But (surprise, surprise!) not all erections are the same.
If the process of how erections work is still a mystery to you, we’re about to break it down in very simple terms. When you’re in a calm state, before any sexual arousal appears, your penis is soft and flaccid.
How Does an Erection Happen?
Psychogenic erections: The type of erection that occurs due to audiovisual stimuli that trigger sexual impulses in our brain. So, if you think about sex, talk about sex, or watch porn and get an erection, it’s a psychogenic erection. Nocturnal erections: Most men are familiar with the morning wood, an erection you wake up to first thing in the morning. Well, that’s known as nocturnal erections that develop during sleep. Refloxogenic erections: The type of erection that occurs due to physical stimulation of the genitals that activates the nervous system and increases blood flow to the area. So, when your partner touches your penis with a hand, mouth, or a sex toy and you get hard, it’s a reflexogenic erection.
An erection starts when the first sexual stimuli appear – it can be anything from a visual, scent, sound, touch, or smell. It sends a signal to your nervous system to relax the muscles of your corpora cavernosa so that more blood can flow into the penis. Also, it signals for the blood flow to increase in the genital region.
As the sexual stimuli continue and more and more blood flows into the penis, it becomes enlarged and hardens. The muscles of your corpora cavernosa tighten to prevent the blood in the penis from flowing out until ejaculation occurs or you’re no longer sexually stimulated.
How Long Does the Average Erection Last?
Erections are very individual, so there is no one right answer for how long an erection lasts and what’s the “perfect” time to aim for. In fact, there is no such thing as the “perfect” length of an erection. There are many factors that might influence how long an erection can last – age, medications, stress, or being under the influence of alcohol and drugs.
A common method for estimating average erection length involves assessing the time it takes for individuals with penises to ejaculate during intercourse, known as intravaginal ejaculation latency time (IELT).
A study with 500 couples across five countries showed IELT ranged from 33 seconds to 44 minutes, a vast variation. However, research found that it took around five minutes, on average, to ejaculate during intercourse.
Another study examining ejaculation latency times (ELT) measured how long it takes a man to ejaculate. During intercourse, the median ELT was eight minutes, yet masturbation ejaculation took less than five minutes.
So, we can speculate that anywhere between five to eight minutes is the average for sustaining an erection for men. However, that doesn’t mean that’s the “normal” for how long an erection lasts. Research done on nocturnal erections found that these types of erections last for at least 10 minutes.
As you can see, there is no right or wrong answer to how long an erection should last.
However, if you notice that you struggle to get an erection and sustain it during sexual intercourse often, it might be a sign of erectile dysfunction. The same goes for if you notice that you ejaculate within a couple of minutes during intercourse – it could be a reason to seek medical advice.
Can an Erection Last Too Short or Too Long?
While there is no definitive answer on how long an erection should last, in some cases, an erection can last too short or too long, which might be a sign of an issue.
Priapism
Despite what people say, there can be too much of a good thing. While you might think that long-lasting erections are always good, if you have an erection that lasts for longer than four hours, it’s not. It’s called priapism and is a serious medical emergency that should be treated as soon as possible.
Certain types of priapism (ischemic priapism or low-flow priapism) may cause permanent erectile dysfunction if left untreated. So, don’t hesitate to seek emergency care if you have a persistent erection for more than two to four hours and whether or not you experience pain with it or not.
Erectile Dysfunction
Erectile dysfunction (ED) is a very common thing many people deal with. According to Urology Care Foundation, up to 30 million people with penises suffer from an ED.
Erectile Dysfunction
ED is when someone struggles to get and keep an erection during intimacy. Common causes are:
High blood pressure, Diabetes, Smoking, Heart issues, High cholesterol, Obesity, Lack of exercise
The good news is that treatments and medications are available to treat ED.
You might not have an issue getting hard but struggle with maintaining an erection for long enough without ejaculating. That’s known as premature ejaculation. There are several causes for premature ejaculation:
Prostate problems Issues with thyroid and hormone health Drug use Depression Stress and anxiety Relationship issues
The good news is that, just like with ED, there are treatments and medications available to help you deal with premature ejaculation.
Factors that Can Affect How Long an Erection Lasts
Many different functions of a body play a part in getting and maintaining an erection, such as nervous system function, cardiovascular system, and hormones. But there are even more factors that might be influencing how long an erection lasts:
Mood swings Burnout Panic attacks Lack of energy Substance abuse Fatigue Vaping Overweight Supplements Chronic diseases like hypertension
All of these factors might influence how long you can maintain an erection and how easy it is for you to get an erection. Some might be out of your control, while other things you might change to improve your overall health and erections.
If you notice that you often ejaculate too soon during intercourse or have a hard time getting hard and staying hard during sex, it might be a good idea to speak with a doctor, as these are signs of sexual dysfunction.
Also, if you notice a sudden change in your erections, the way they develop, and how long they last, it might also be a good idea to speak with a medical advisor.
There’s no shame in seeking help to aid with erections. Your doctor will find a way to help you deal with any underlying health issues, which might help improve your erections and sexual satisfaction.
When To Seek Medical Advice
Common Myths About Erection Duration
Common misconceptions about erection length.
Myth #1: Longer Always Means Better
Longer erections don’t mean better erections.
Focus on the quality of your sexual activities.
But if you do want to last longer in bed, try edging. It’s a practice of delaying an orgasm, which helps enhance orgasms and get better control over your erections and ejaculations.
Myth #2: Only Older Men Experience Changes
A common misconception is that as men age, they start to experience erection issues and ED that prevents them from enjoying sex at an older age. That couldn’t be further from the truth.
First of all, there are plenty of people who enjoy sex at an older age. Pleasure has no age limit, and just because you’re getting older, it doesn’t mean you will lose the ability to have sex or achieve an orgasm.
Second, issues with erections are prevalent in young people, too. One out of four men who seek help with ED treatment are under the age of 40. Stress, anxiety, and lifestyle factors all play a more significant part in sexual health, not age.
Myth #3: Supplements Alone Solve All Problems
If you have issues with erection, it might be tempting to believe that one magical pill can solve all of your issues. With many different medications available on the market, all promising to make you hard and last long in bed for hours, it’s easy to get distracted.
However, there is no cure-all for erection-related issues. Plus, most of the supplements that promise to fix your issues often lack scientific research. Before you rely on one magical pill to solve an issue, it’s best to seek professional medical advice.
Your doctor will be able to run tests and determine the issue (if there is one) so you can both agree on a treatment plan that works for you and your lifestyle.
How To Get Your Erection to Last Longer
If you want to improve erection quality and duration, there are some things you can do:
Maintain a Healthy Lifestyle
Making positive lifestyle changes can greatly improve your overall health, which in turn can help enhance your erections. So, consider these lifestyle changes:
Maintaining healthy body weight
Invest in Your Relationships
If you have anxiety related to your sexual performance, invest time in finding a way to communicate openly with your partner.
Share your worries if you have any with your partner. Consider seeking counsel to help you navigate your relationship.
Try Edging
Edging is delaying an orgasm to enhance pleasure. It helps build stamina and improve erectile dysfunction. Experiment with techniques.
Improve Your Stamina
Stamina trainers like the F1S V2 can help you practice controlling orgasms so you can last longer. Just lie back and enjoy.
Wear a Cock Ring During Sex
Cock rings are great accessories to wear during partnered sex to enhance pleasure. It helps make erections harder and last longer, and if you use a vibrating one, it also adds extra stimulation for you and your partner.
There is no right or wrong answer when it comes to how long an erection should last. It all depends on each individual, their lifestyle, and various other factors. So, there is no reason to compare yourself to others.
Also, a satisfying sex life is much more than hour-long intercourse. Instead of focusing on the numbers, focus on the connection with your partner and your body.
Enjoy the sensations that occur during sex in your body, and experiment with different types of pleasurable activities: oral sex, mutual masturbation, and even kink.
And if you do suffer from erection-related issues, don’t hesitate to seek out medical advice. There is no reason to suffer in silence, and your medical advisor can help you find the right treatment and medication if needed.
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KAROLINA WILDE
Author & Freelancer
Karolina Wilde is the author of House of Pain, the first book in a seductive dark fantasy romance trilogy, a journalist, and a sex-positive freelance writer who worked with some of the biggest brands in the world.
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