Vibrators as relationship enhancement tools

Dr. Laurie Mintz · June 13, 2025

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Last updated: June 26, 2025

Take a moment and imagine a woman using a vibrator. What type of toy do you imagine her using?

Using clitoral vibrators enhances orgasmic capacity. In one study, 93% of women who had never orgasmed were able to orgasm after using a clitoral vibrator! They do so in less time and with less effort. Many describe their orgasms as more intense.

Many women enjoy vibrators solo or with partners. Research indicates women who use vibrators with partners report greater satisfaction. Studies show that women in male relationships are more hesitant to introduce vibrators due to concerns about their partners' egos. However, many men eventually embrace the benefits of vibrator use.

Studies show that using a vibrator with a partner improves intimacy and excitement, due to increased novelty and arousal. Both the penis and clitoris respond specifically to vibrations, which can enhance pleasure.

So, if you’ve been using a vibrator with a partner, and it’s enhanced your sex life, kudos to you! Keep doing that and read on for some fun new ways to do so. If you haven’t been using a vibrator during partner sex, please start doing so!

If you engage in casual sex, take your vibrator along with you and use it on yourself. We know that women orgasm significantly less than men during casual sexual encounters—and the biggest reason is that in hookups, women don’t often get the clitoral stimulation they require to orgasm. To fix that problem in your life, throw a small handheld clitoral vibrator (like the LELO MIA 2) in your purse, and make sure you get what you need.

To achieve intimacy in a relationship, take some time to communicate with your partner openly.

I'm a little nervous to bring this up, but I want us to have the best experience together. A blog talked about couples incorporating a vibrator into their intimacy.

There are several ways to use a vibrator with a partner. Here are a few suggestions, with perfect vibrator recommendations.

One option is a vibrator specifically designed for use with a partner. My top choice is the TOR 2.

This is a vibrating cock ring. The man wears it on his penis during penetrative sex. He gets to feel the vibrations on his penis while his partner feels them on her clitoris. Win-Win!

Another option is for the woman to stimulate her own clitoris during intercourse—which itself is a scientifically-supported sex therapy suggestion! To make this work, it’s best to be in a position where the woman has easy access to her own clitoris.

Vibrators don’t have to be used during intercourse. You can take turns having orgasms. During your turn, use your favorite vibrator on yourself while your partner watches!

Imagine being in a pool with your loved one. There’s a raft; sometimes you lay together and sometimes one lounges while the other hangs on the side, talking or kissing. After such a fun day, you wouldn’t say "Me and my raft had the best day!". The raft was just an accessory.

The same is true of a sex toy during sex. It’s a tool to make your experience more exciting and intimate for both of you! It enhances the moment, creating unforgettable memories and deeper emotional bonds.