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Consensual fun is paramount, yet myths abound around BDSM practices. Let's explore some misconceptions.

Many think it's abuse, others link it to mental illness. Let's dispel these harmful ideas with facts.

BDSM relies on thorough pre-scene discussions: limits, safe words. This ensures a safe and pleasurable experience.

Studies debunk the link between BDSM and mental disorders. It can be part of a healthy and loving relationship.

Let's discuss BDSM toys, safety guidelines, and how to incorporate them safely into your play time routine.

Understanding BDSM Play & Toy Categories

If you’re toying with the idea of BDSM and you’re wondering if you should add any BDSM toys into your play time, here are a few reasons why it’s a good idea:

BDSM toys help enhance physical sensations They can reinforce the dominant/submissive dynamic They can aid in the curiosity of fantasy exploration They can prevent monotony They can heighten psychological pleasure

With that, let’s explore the different kinds of BDSM play and their associated toys!

For more clarity, if you’re not familiar, in most BDSM relationships there is a dominant and a submissive.

Bondage play

Bondage is a type of play where the submissive is restrained. Here are some BDSM sex toys for bondage play:

Bondage Collection: Cuffs and Ropes Spreader bars Gags and Masks Blindfolds Hoods and Leashes Anal play Tape and Clamps

Sensory play

Sensory play is a type of activity that engages the senses, or limits them. This could involve touch, smell, taste, sound, or vision. Here are some BDSM sex toys for sensory play:

Eye Covers Aroma Massage Oils Metal or Glass Toys Electrical Stimulation Soft Feather Teasers Rotating Pinwheels Scented Massage Lights

Impact play

Impact play is when the submissive partner receives impact, such as being spanked, punched, whipped, or flogged for the sake of gratification. Here are some BDSM sex toys for impact play:

Floggers Paddles Whips Canes Crops

Power exchange play

If you’re a beginner and hoping this to be your BDSM beginner guide, then we’ve got a simple guide for you on how to start off your new journey.

Here’s a list of BDSM gear to slowly start off with, and why it’s a good idea to use them:

Handcuffs and restraints: ideal for light bondage while experiencing the dominant/submissive power dynamic

Blindfolds: enhances sensory deprivation and builds up anticipation with someone you trust

Feather ticklers: perfect for gentle teasing and exploration

Soft floggers or paddles: introduce impact play without intense pain

Gags (ball gags & bit gags): add an element of power exchange and control

Adjustable nipple clamps: fun for sensation play and arousal control

In the realm of bondage & restraint equipment

Rope & shibari kits: for creative rope bondage and artistic restraint

Spreader bars: to keep the legs or arms fixed in position for dominance play

Hogtie sets: for full-body restraint and submission scenes

Exploring sensory deprivation play

Electric wands create tingling pulses. Temperature tools use ice, lubes, or metal for sensations. Hoods & gas masks offer full sensory deprivation.

In the realm of power exchange & control toys.

Collars & leashes: symbolises ownership, dominance, and submission

Chastity cages: used for orgasm control and dominance/submission dynamics

Gags & mouth restraints: limits speech and enhances power imbalance in play

How to Introduce BDSM Toys into Your Play

And now that you’re more versed in BDSM toys, perhaps you’d like to introduce some into your play time with a partner? We know that it can be daunting, especially given the stigma surrounding BDSM.

Open communication is key: Discuss boundaries, desires, and hard limits. Use a safe word system: Green means keep going, orange means slow down, and red means stop. Experiment slowly: Start with lighter sensations. Incorporate toys: Use blindfolds or soft handcuffs. Mutual aftercare is essential: Cuddling and positive feedback are crucial.

BDSM Toy Safety & Best Practices

Just like any other sex toy, it’s important to be safe during use and to make sure that your BDSM sex toys are clean. Having toys of a high standard is, of course, a big plus, too.

Here are some tips of BDSM toy safety and best practices:

Select safe materials, like silicone or medical-grade metals for BDSM. Never use random household items as toys. Always test toys prior to usage to avoid injuries. Clean toys after use. Do not restrict blood flow for long periods.

Common Mistakes to Avoid in BDSM Toy Play

BDSM is a fantastical world to discover new realms of pleasure. But it can involve things that may be mentally and physically taxing.

A BDSM scene is not something to be taken lightly, and shouldn’t happen out of the blue, without these necessary things:

Skipping consent and communication: We’ve mentioned above how important consent is, and how everything should be communicated before a BDSM scene. Make sure to always discuss things before playing. Using cheap or unsafe toys: You now know safe materials that make for excellent toys, but try to avoid materials with phthalates or weak durability. Ignoring safe words: Whether you have chosen just one, or will make use of three safe words, always respect a partner’s boundaries and comfort levels. Neglecting aftercare: Post-play check-ins ensure a positive experience.

Exploring Advanced BDSM Play

While this article does appear to predominantly serve as a BDSM beginner guide, we of course want to add in extra tidbits for those seasoned players.

So, for those who have already had the pleasure of enjoying BDSM play, or who’ve tried BDSM kits and other BDSM gear, here are some other things you could experiment with:

Exploring power exchange through role-play enhances intimacy. Dedicated BDSM spaces at home offer safety. Combining sensory play, like floggers with restraints, intensifies experiences.

We hope you’ve learned a thing or two about BDSM toys, and how fun they can be to use with the right partner. Remember that consent is always a must, communication is of utmost importance.

Just as important is aftercare, and making sure that both partners feel satisfied, seen, and positive with regards to the entire BDSM scene.

Another thing to note is that going for high quality BDSM toys is not only a good idea, but also the safest way to play. Rather spend more to be in safe hands.

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